To all of you whom may have been following my blog so far, I’m sad to say I’ll be taking a short break from writing. I should hopefully be back soon, but possibly with a few changes. As usual, please feel free to contact me if you need any advice or have any helpful comments. See you soon 🙂
If you’ve been reading my blog already, you might know that I’ve been on a volunteer trip recently, and it’s led me to explore the murky depths of travelling when chronically ill.
Unfortunately, past me decided it would be a good idea to book a very expensive and very challenging journey to the other side of the world, without considering that I had a year to wait before I could go. Now, all things considered, a year isn’t a very long time. When you have to fundraise £2000, a year is positively miniscule. On the other hand, a year is also a helluva long time for someone with a chronic illness, and a lot can happen over a few months. For example, I didn’t expect that my fibro would stop me from completing my last three modules at university, or that it would leave me bed bound for weeks on end. In hindsight, I should have known something would happen.
Anyway, all things considered, I still went through with it, because I’d put a lot of time and money into getting there and there was no way I was giving up so close to the end.
It made me realise, though, that there were a lot of people who would do anything for the opportunity that I had, and that I shouldn’t pass it up so easily.
Getting to my destination, I also realised that there were loads of people who don’t even have half of the life that I have back at home when I’m being miserable. It just goes to show, I might be suffering, but there are millions of others out there who are all different yet all still suffering in their own way. It is important to remember that there are others out there who also need help. And sometimes, it makes sense to stop for a moment and do them a favour, even if it is just to hold open a door or make a cup of coffee for someone.
Your actions could potentially make someone else’s day a lot brighter.
so please, if you’re thinking of telling someone that they look nice today, or if you have some spare change as you walk by that homeless guy on your way home, please follow your impulses and do it. You never know, you just might change a life.
Having been away on a volunteer trip for the last two weeks, I somehow managed to mess up my antidepressants. Oops. I’ve been in a bad way recently, and most of my blog is on hold for now. However, I thought it was urgent to post this, so here goes…
This is what you should do if you find yourself in a similar situation; feeling depressed or even suicidal.
1. SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY.
Call a friend, a family member, or a helpline.
Having someone to talk to can help calm you down and rationalise what may potentially be an irrational bunch of thoughts. And besides, at least it gives you someone to rant to! Getting help can make a difference in what could potentially be a life- threatening situation.
I’ll add some useful helpline links at the bottom of this post for anyone who may need them, but a quick Google can do just as good.
2. Be mindful.
Practice breathing, focusing on your body, and acknowledging (and then dismissing) your thoughts. By spending a few minutes doing this, you can help yourself to relax and think more rationally. This is especially useful if you have no one there to help and have to rely on your self to calm down.
Another mindfulness trick I like is to count out loud three taps of my dominant thumb onto each finger of my dominant hand, starting at my pointer, working to my pinkie, and then going back along to my pointer again. Basically make a pinching motion three times with each finger and repeat until you feel calm. This helps you to focus on something physical, grounding you to the present.
3. Get to your safe space.
It is very important to find your safe space, somewhere where you can relax and feel comfortable. Often, this will be under your duvet, in the bathroom, or in another quiet place. However, if you are feeling suicidal, it is important that there is someone else available to you if you need help. I would advise that you have a ‘secondary’ safe space, at a friend’s house, for example, where you have the added benefit of another human for comfort and support.
When feeling severely depressed, this is a good method of reducing any external stimuli, which may otherwise impact any anxiety or bad thoughts that you may be experiencing.
4. Treat yo’self.
Eat your favourite food, read a book, listen to your favourite song, or watch a film. Whatever it is that helps you to feel better.
Personally, I like to hide under my bed covers (safe space) with a good book and loads of food (think: ice cream, chocolate, cheese, crisps), or I’ll run a bath and sit mindfully whilst it is filling. Locking myself in the bathroom with the noise of the tub filling gives me a chance to get away from the stress of the ‘outside world’.
Anyway, that’s all for today, but I’d like to round up by asking my usual request, let us know if you have something to share! And one last thing..
You are loved ♡
So I have a confession to make…
I have a bit of an addiction to houseplants. They’re pretty, easy to look after, and university friendly. What could possibly go wrong? Well…
Here’s the thing: having fibro means that you often do silly things out of boredom, and very easily create obsessions to occupy the time when you’re stuck in bed. I got a bit of an obsession with all of the pretty houseplants that I’d seen on Tumblr and Pinterest, and it got a slightly out of hand. Every time I saw an interesting plant, I had to buy it. I spent a FORTUNE.
It doesn’t make it any better that I miss my animals whilst I’m away at university, so I’ve replaced them with a windowsill full of greenery (well I had to find SOMEWHERE to put my affections, right!?). Having plants gives me something to do when I feel well, and something to look at when I’m not. The best bit is that you can choose plants that rely on very little water, so that you don’t have to spend too much time on maintenance, especially when you’re poorly.
Anyway, house plants are pretty good for fibro sufferers (much easier than a dog) and also for tenants who aren’t allowed pets, but they can get pretty expensive. I daren’t tell you how much I’ve spent perfecting my windowsill!
If you fancy starting your own collection, look into buying cacti, succulents, and other common houseplants that require low maintenance. You can pick them up from all over nowadays, most of mine are from my local Lidl supermarket, and I’ve even got a few from the carboot. If you want a good deal, look out for the plants that look a little bit worse for ware. As long as they still have healthy growth and aren’t too far gone, you can usually bring them back to life. My favourite part about that is that the shop usually wants rid of the ones that aren’t doing well, because they are less likely to sell, so you can normally get them at a reduced price.
My favourite plant from my own personal bunch is a spider plant. It fills out the space in my room and, best of all, sprouts loads of new growths. This means that I can snip them off and pot them up, thus giving me loads of new little ones (yay!). I’m currently waiting for my ten spider plant babies to grow a little so that I can pot them nicely and send then as gifts to the people I love.
Let us know if you have any interesting hobbies that are fibro friendly, because it’s great to have an obsession when you’re stuck in bed feeling low. Also, if you have any houseplants that you care for, I’d love to hear your advice. Last but not least, don’t forget to like and comment so I know I’m posting the good stuff!
So before I start, let me just clarify that I am agnostic. I would love something to believe in, but I need proof first. I am, however, very open minded, and I will try anything once. That’s why I went along with my mum and a friend of ours to see a healing medium. This is what happened…
To start off the night, we were all given some purple rice ‘stuff’. It was mixed with cold water (they didn’t have hot) and smelled a bit murky. Unsurprisingly, it was as purple as a very purple thing. Also unsurprisingly, it tasted like rice. Cold rice.
Anyway, the purple rice was intended to help boost energy levels and, although I couldn’t feel any effects myself, the medium gave us some surprisingly strong evidence to prove that it worked (she looked ten years younger for a start). It seemed to do the trick for her, so it could be worth a look.
Second on our agenda was physical healing. She chose a handful of people from the audience who felt that they had an issue that needed sorting. Unfortunately, she wanted illnesses that were visible, so I didn’t get picked. Fair does, I guess.
The healing went surprisingly well, with everyone feeling a change and a handful feeling considerably better.
After this, we had an interval in which she demonstrated three different things. Firstly, glasses with holes in to help you improve your sight (not as weird as it sounds). Secondly, a necklace which aims to make your chakras ‘spin’. I didn’t expect this one to work but, being her wonderful and miraculous assistant (haha), I experienced this one first-hand. The exercise worked as it was supposed to, improving my balance immensely. The third promotion was for a small device used to prevent the microwaves emmited by your mobile phone from having an effect on your body. Again, this worked surprisingly well when demonstrated.
After a brief break, we were supposed to have more healings, this time for invisible problems (I was excited for this!). However, as we were running out of time, we didn’t get to do this and, instead, created a healing circle.
Sitting in a large circle, we had to concentrate on our bodies and hum various different notes, so as to ‘self- heal’. It was surprisingly relaxing, and my mind felt very eased, despite the fact that I sounded (and probably looked) like an idiot. Unfortunately, rather than making my pain feel better, as I hoped it would, it actually seemed to increase the tension in my body and made the pain worse. I wouldn’t like to rule this out, however, but instead suggest that I needed more time, more effort, and more energy, if I hoped to see results.
On the plus side, the friend that accompanied us to the evening also practices spiritual healing, and her own simple technique that she tried on my hand had an instant effect. Because of this, I’m almost certain that a revisit with spiritual healing will have some benefit, but I think we would need to put a lot more time and energy into it if we did.
So, what have I learnt from my experience this evening? Energy can be manipulated through us and, regardless of religion, anyone can use it for their benefit.
Thanks for joining me!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton